There is a whole world of people who are navigating the world through ego. What that does is force everyone around them to navigate the world through fear. Fear of being unseen. Fear of being unloved. Fear of being different. Fear of never being successful. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not having enough to ever do more than…
Category: Detach
Don’t fake anything, anymore, anywhere, for anyone, at anytime
The Fake-it-until-you-make-it mentality is now officially obsolete! While it was used by many to overcome what were thought to be dire circumstances, it was never meant to be a default survival mechanism for the rest of your life. Fake-it-until-you-makeit will land just about anyone in a misrepresentation of their truth, misappropriating their wisdom, and/or crossing…
Allowing the journey of your soul to be most relevant
Once you understand that joy is more than a moment, it becomes easy to see that what is most important in life is the journey of your soul, not your brain. Life is not to be led step-by-step. So, there are no rungs on any ladder that you were authentically designed to climb. Ladders didn’t…
More than surviving the dream
Do not try to survive that which is, at best, a path to your own cultural undoing. This is what I so want to say to all people of difference who come to this land chasing a dream. Do not come to this place and try to survive it. It is already lost, a zombie…
Black joy
The warriors of any struggle, themselves, are never afforded the opportunity to breathe. Their breath, always tethered to the fight, is constrained, burdened, and belabored. This is truth for Black women. Hearts coopted by humanity on the frontlines, fighting for others to have a chance. The liberation granted to them upon their first breath slips…
The joy of partnership
When I was co-running a start-up organization, I would be asked by another community leader how many paid employees we had. It never felt right to answer that question but I could not name why at the time. Once, I was able to mutter out a simple “We don’t have employees, we have partners” but…
A more joyful evolution
People are trying to fight their way through intergenerational trauma. It can be done but it is the long route home. The more productive route is to overwrite the dramas and the traumas with intergenerational joy. In other words, let the wisdom of our parents and ancestors, whatever they may be and even if only…
Can you see me now?
This, me being me, is not a performance. It is no role that I am playing. It is not an act to get a job. It is not even to attract the attention of others. This is me being me so that you will feel more free to be you. What does it mean to…